Black or White vs. The Full Spectrum

Why yes, this is yet another post that started with one of my dreams. :)

I was riding in the car with a friend and we were talking about this and that. Ya know, small talk. The next thing I know, we're talking about the complexities of relationships. We agreed that it's only as complicated as the individuals that are in it, whether your related, friends, significant others, or hardly know one another. Everyone brings something different to the relationship. Some people thrive on drama, some thrive on resolving drama, and then some just want to punch those people in the face. We elaborated on this for a few minutes when I found myself hearing the statement that I would mull over for the remainder of the dream (and all day, too, in reality) "Do you know what my favorite thing about you is?" I braced myself, expecting a sarcastic answer. "About 95% of the time, you see things either black or white. There's almost never an gray area with you. You're either right or wrong. You're either a nice guy or a jerk. You only give one second chance. You have high expectations for others because you have expectations for yourself. Everyone knows where they stand with you, but you have a polite way of letting them know. Does that make sense?" I nodded. "But, the other 5% of the time, you see everything. It's not a gray area, either, but more like a freaking rainbow. It's like you understand that some things just aren't meant to be one or the other. And those things completely blow my mind sometimes. Just when I think I understand how you see the world, you say something that goes against everything I thought. Sometimes your thoughts don't match up with what you've said in the past, but when I think about them, they don't contradict them, either. Did any of that make sense?" It took a minute to process it all, but I eventually replied. They were worried they upset me, but they didn't. Not at all.

Now, I don't know if that is what this friend actually thinks. I'm not going to ask, either. I'm not sure if this is even true. I've been mulling over it all day, though. My questions?: Is this how Caitlin is? Or is this just her subconscious wishing this is how she was?