9.17.2016

A Nephew, A Celestial Ball, A Night of Reflection, and the Lessons I Learned


Nobody in the world loves the moon more than Frankie. While we're driving, he will randomly exclaim, "Guys, I found the moon!" When night falls, he runs outside to find the moon. He loves the moon. The moon is always there for him. Even when it is cloudy, he understands the moon is there. His faith in the moon is a maturity that surpasses most.

The harvest lunar eclipse beckoned us outside on a warm September night. Accompanied by cool beverages and the sound of crickets, we huddled together on the front porch and watched the moon creep over the trees. The excitement of an three year old already up past his bedtime was contagious. Anticipation, combined with a lifelong infatuation for lunarious spheres, skyrocketed his usually groggy energy for the nine o'clock hour. Bouncing between my lap, the chair, the steps, and the walkway, he exuded enthusiasm as the "big one" shown above the trees.

After ten minutes or so, we scurried back inside to call it a night. After arguing that Gurgah would not "sleep on the carpet" in his bedroom, I agreed to let him sleep in my room. We watched half of an episode of VeggieTales on my phone and laid in quiet admiration of the moon shining brightly through the curtain. He tossed and turned and squirmed all over the bed trying to get the perfect spot. He grew impatient, and said, "I cannot see Fedder!" A few questions later, I learned he had named the moon Feather. A little unconventional, but I loved it. We said our bedtime prayers where we prayed for everyone he's ever met, but especially Bob and Larry, since they were the ones who had sang him about conquering monsters (an idea that is ever present in our house.) After a few moments, I set him up at the foot of the bed, right in front of the window. There, he laid motionless until the heavy breathing of deep slumber filled the room.

I relaxed and continued to stare at the moon, wondering how I could channel Frankie's wonderment. At 25, I'm cynical and realistic. Painfully so. I'm so in tune with my discernment, I often forget about the benefit of the doubt. I'm obnoxiously boring. And then here is this three year old who gets so much joy from a circle in the sky. A circle he knows absolutely nothing about except that it is in the sky, and it's always there, even when he cannot see it. At his age, everything is curious. Everything is new and exciting. Learning is fun, and you don't even know you're learning! The excitement from mundane things adults don't even think twice about can stop you in your tracks. (For example, the light in the refrigerator is not just there for midnight snacking. A three year old reminded me of this.)

So what did this night teach me? I learned the moon really is a spherical mystery that brings feelings of security and joy. I learned that sometimes the best conversations can happen while staring at the moon. I learned lot of inspiration can come from watching a three year old sleep peacefully after an evening of staring at the night sky. And I learned that I have a lot of learning left to do. I have a lot to surrender and a lot of admiration to lavish upon Him before I write something with even  a twinge of expertise.

Frankie loves the moon. Gurgah loves Frankie. Frankie teaches Gurgah to love the moon. Life is never the same.



3.03.2016

An Open Letter to the Enemy

Enemy,

I originally started this letter off with "Dear Enemy" but that seemed a bit too friendly. And I'm really not in the mood for formalities tonight.

I'm tired.

I'm tired of you.

Cunning.
Manipulative.
Deceitful.
Desperate.
Straight up evil.

I'm tired of you taking my thoughts and twisting them around.
I'm tired of you making me say things I normally wouldn't say, then filling me with shame as I beg forgiveness for my uncharacteristic behavior that hurt someone I love.
I'm tired of you pinning my family against each other on a regular basis.
I'm tired of you trying to divide us.
I'm tired of you attacking our health - mentally, physically, and spiritually.
I'm tired of you attacking the very space my parents worked so hard to make safe.
I'm tired of you attacking feelings and emotions that simply do not belong to you.
I'm tired of you filling up the hole I'm so desperately trying to dig myself out of.
I'm tired of you sparking arguments with something as little as a dirty look or word.
I'm tired of you bringing up past mistakes, flaws, and insecurities as if I don't already know about them.
I'm tired of you stirring hatred and discord.
I'm tired of you driving a wedge in every aspect of my life.
I'm tired of you draining every ounce of energy I have.
And I'm tired of letting you.

I'm tired of you stealing our joy.
I'm tired of you stealing our happiness, our security, our innocence.
I'm tired of you stealing our sense of purpose and pride.
I'm tired of you stealing our family.
I'm tired of you stealing our freedoms.
And I'm taking them back.

I'm tired of you thinking it's okay to keep a little boy awake all night long in order to make us less focused and negative the next day.
I'm tired of you thinking it's okay to use his innocence as a hindrance instead of the strength it is.
And I'm tired of you thinking it's okay to use a little boy like that - period.

I'm tired of you telling me I'm not good enough, or the person I think I am.
I'm tired of you telling me I am unlovable.
I'm tired of you telling me a church family isn't something I need or want.
I'm tired of you telling me that nobody cares.
And I'm tired of believing your lies.

I'm tired of you thinking it's okay to mess with us.
Because it's not.
You don't get a say in what happens here.
I can quote song after song, scripture after scripture, but it's really quite simple.

You don't win.

End of story.

You don't get my victories, and I'm determined not to let you get my defeats, because let me tell you something - I've just become your worst nightmare.

I'm a woman who has had enough. And not in the "I give up" kind of way. No, no... that'd be too easy. That would be exactly what you wanted. No, dear - I'm fighting you with the armor that my King has given me. And it just so happens that prayer is my strongest weapon. So get ready for a whole lot of plans backfiring because I'm not playing anymore. You have overstayed your unwelcome here.

*mic drop*