Like It, Love It, Gotta Have It

A crush can only last for four months. If it exceeds, you are in love.

True or false?

In a recent article I read, it said infatuation can only last for four months. People get bored, come to their senses, or merely realize the instant attraction wasn't everything they thought it was. If these feelings continue after that, it's a serious connection and the attachment is more than just a crush.

Things that make you go "Hmmm?"

I can honestly say I do not have an opinion on this. It's one of those psychological facts that I don't know if I should believe or not.

There is one thing I know:
If it is true, then the meaning of love has been devalued even more than I realized.

This means that people who have had crushes on the same person for longer than a few months are in love with them.

Seriously?

But...
On the other hand, I guess that would explain the heartbreak most of us experience when the other person is dating someone else or tells us they don't feel the same way.

And if it is more than just a crush, we've seriously underestimated our capibility for passion, and should find a way to express it in all areas of our lives.

My heart tonight....

I don't want you to know where I am 'cause then you'll see my heart in the saddest state it's ever been. This is no place to try and live my life...I'm sorry for the person I became. I'm sorry that it took so long for me to change. I'm ready to be sure I never become that way again.

And it goes on and on and on...

It has been my experience when a sentence begins with, "I know you don't want to hear this, but...", the results typically prove them right. So, why on earth would they say it? If they know how it will make me feel, why would they tell me? Maybe they do not know the intensity of the emotions, but that is no reason to bring them up. And to bring them up so casually, as if it is no big deal? There are two reasons why one does not talk about something: either it means nothing or it means everything.

Some people are an open book. They do not have secrets. They are able to talk about anything and everything, and they do not hold anything back.

I am not like that. I have said it before, I am a private person. I always have been. It is not something I do intentionally. In fact, I put a lot of effort into talking to people. It has become easier over the last year. When it comes to some people, I have no problem saying what is on my mind. Others, well, it is a work in progress. It is nothing personal, and I cannot stress that enough. I guess I just care too much about what those people think. Not because I am shallow and immature, but because I really value their opinion.

That being said, I do not appreciate the endless statements that are made about multiple aspects of my life. I have said, on what seems like a daily basis, that "if I have something to tell you, I will."

I read a quote that said, "Never take someone's feelings for granted because you never know how much courage it took to show them to you." To say I completely relate is an understatement. I have always said it takes me a while to give 100% into a relationship, but once I do, I remain at 100% unless you take advantage of me and my feelings. I completely understand this behavior in other people. It is the people who give everything they have right away that confuse me. I feel as though they get frustrated or take offense to my "social awkwardness" and give up. The ones that stick around long enough to see me follow through, I hold on to for a long time. They are the ones that deserve it most.


I guess I am just a little too sensitive lately...

You're Not An Artist, You're A Wannabe

You are a person. Who has a camera. Or a camera phone. Or an iPad. Whatever. It is a device that takes photographs. This makes you a photographer.

False.

That is like me saying that because I have a variety of instruments in my house, I am a musician.

Heck no. My musical talent is equivalent to that of pillow.

It is absolutely ridiculous how many people think they are "artistic" because they held the camera at an upward angle and took a photo of a tree. It is even more ridiculous how editing the photo on their computer makes their photos "artistic".

No.

Most wannabe-photographers have this among their favorite quotes: When you photograph people in color you photograph their clothes. But when you photograph people in black and white, you photograph their souls!
That rule does not apply when you use photo shop. The whole point of photography is to capture something that changes the way we see it, not manipulating the photo to make it look like you did.

And then they put them on Facebook, making a fan page for their work, and thinking someone will hire them for their bat mitzvah.

Oh, please! You are twelve years old! Stick to long division!

So, here is a note to all of those people who think they are the chiz for their unsurpassed camera phone photos - leave it to the real artists.